The sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life. (CCC 1661)

We want first and foremost to congratulate you on your engagement. It will be our joy and honor to accompany you as you prepare for this wonderful sacrament.

Marriage is the creation of a covenant and its permanence calls for a very serious process of preparation.  Couples should call at least six months before the date that they wish to hold their wedding.

You will meet with the pastor, set a date, and then take part in several steps to prepare yourselves for your marriage.


These steps include:

  • Meetings with the pastor
  • Participation in a one-day marriage seminar called Pre-Cana: Usually on a Saturday and led by a team of married couples who share their insights into the many different aspects of marriage.
  • Participation in a communication survey called Fully Engaged which consists of completing an online survey and then reviewing the feedback with the pastor.
  • You will also receive a booklet which will help you prepare and personalize your Wedding Ceremony.



I look forward to making this journey with you. You can contact me at

315-252-7261  or niven@dor.org

Our full set of policies is here: Marriage Policies